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Step 1. Get your head right. 🪄Ta-da✨ and Good Things lists are a good start! Here are mine from Sunday.

💖GOOD THINGS
No more unwanted expelling of body fluids! I'm still having sharp stomach pains, though. That's not so fun.
Putting a couple of stickers on my replacement laptop has made me feel a lot more like it's mine.
Having files synced to the replacement laptop means I can work in my bedroom reading nook while the kids are playing video games downstairs and Phil is recuperating in the attic.
The dog has not had any vomit- or diarrhea-related incidents today. Yet.
The kids had a really good, long D&D session that did NOT erupt in a sibling squabble and end in tears and screams.
How very much Theia loves Lotus egg rolls. She got one from the deli when she went grocery shopping with Phil, as a treat. It just makes me smile.
Rewatching Leverage:Redemption to prescreen episodes for the kids.

🪄TA-DA✨
Did 2 loads of laundry. There is SO MUCH laundry.
Fed dog, cats, and kids breakfast and lunch.
Free-writing warm-up.
Sent a stressful email explaining why I can't fulfill my volunteer commitment to help set up at an upcoming pie social (norovirus is contagious for quite a while, turns out).
Checked calendar for next week--very important!
Checked with Cassius about if he wanted us to watch his theatre performance--no.
Put away miscellaneous laundry.
Hand-washed 2 sinks of dishes.
Re-ordered approximately 3,000 words of the out-of-order draft ending to Desolation Station. Lots more to go!
Cut and bundled branches from downed tree into 1 bundle for yard waste.
Wiped down kitchen counters.
Made dinner (pasta with pesto, very easy).
Folded 1 load of laundry while watching Leverage:Redemption.
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Less than two weeks now until the end of school and the onslaught of summer vacation. Phil says I always act like it's this big scary thing to have the kids home and like I won't be able to do anything else for the whole time--and he's right. I do act that way. BECAUSE IT'S TRUE!

Kidding. A little. But I am trying really hard to finish writing the rough draft of Desolation Station before summer hits, and I don't expect to get a whole lot done after that.

Yesterday was my birthday. I didn't go collecting birthday freebies or do much this year, mostly because I was still recovering from Saturday's 5K. It's not as much fun going places when you're using a cane and prone to unpredictable spikes of pain in your knees. But Phil got a fancy "tuxedo" cake, and steaks, and corn on the cob. We had a very tasty dinner--the steaks were *so good*. Grilled perfectly, just short of well-done but still juicy. Penzey's Chicago Steak Seasoning is delicious. The kids got me a candle (Theia) and an "Ignore the Mess" mug (Cassius--very funny, kiddo!). Phil plans on taking me to a home store to buy a new lamp for the bedroom. And then after the kids were theoretically in bed, we watched Inside Man.

The 5K was on Saturday! Theia's been doing Girls on the Run this year, an afterschool program that culminates in running a 5K at the State Fair Grounds with approximately 3,000 other Girls on the Run, their running buddies, and their coaches. Theia needed a running buddy, and it was very unclear if I would be physically capable of this. Phil tried running. Once. And immediately got shin splints that ruled this out. Because of his recent work trip to China and how busy he's been at work with other projects, he didn't have the time to try and scale up training. I've been doing a Couch-to-5K program this spring. I tried this program last year, too, and it went really badly. I was basically always crippled after trying it. This year I was smarter and did a lot of physical therapy work before beginning running. I have really bad knees thanks to post-traumatic osteoarthritis caused by blowing out my ACLs and the surgery that replaced them.

And now I need to rest a bit and do more of my physical therapy exercises to recover.

(time passes)

So now it's one week until the end of school. ::runs around screaming with panic--except I can't run right now:: I am still getting lots of gnomes randomly stabbing my knees with daggers. This is what happens when my knee inflammation flares up and I get meniscus involvement and some other bullshit. I can kinda walk down stairs semi-normally today, though, which is better than the rest of the week. (Edit: nope. Thought I could, and then a gnome stabbed me in the knee while I was going downstairs and I nearly fell down the damn steps.) So that's severely inhibited my ability to do things around the house, plus I need to take time to ice my knees, do physical therapy exercises etc. I am not good at taking that time.

And then our dishwasher flooded all over the floor on Friday. We were able to get an appointment to have the repair guy come out on Sunday and take a look at it. He did, he has ordered new replacement parts for the filter and pump, and when they arrive we will need to make another appointment. In the meantime, we maybe cleaned out the filter enough that it kinda works? With close supervision? (Edit: also nope. It flooded all over the place. Again.) And there have been a lot of handwash dishes, which is a problem for me since standing for long Angers The Knees. But Phil's been great, and I made the kids wash some dishes too.

We had been thinking of maybe traveling to Wisconsin for cousin graduation parties, but appliance repair plans and long car rides being bad for knees nixed that. Instead, on Saturday Theia had a birthday party to attend at Johanna Beach, which is a nice little beach in Arden Hills that I'd never visited before but it was the perfect weather for it. And Phil and I looked around Home Depot and Target and surveyed lamp options for my "new bedroom floor lamp" birthday present. Eventually I concluded that modern lamps all suck (and are too short! what's up with so many modern floor lamps being under 5' tall???) and I'll be buying a Tiffany knock-off from the internet.

The rest of today is basically going to be struggling to get the kids to do their homework. (Edit: That went really badly. 5 hours of being screamed at.) Next week is field trips and special events and school wrap-up events. And then next weekend is 4th Street Fantasy convention for me, a writers' convention that I look forward to every year! As well as Father's Day, so I need to help the kids do something for that.

Hey, I finished a journal entry!

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The teacher's strike has ended and the kids go back to school on Tuesday, thank God. The past three weeks of them at home and me having no extra time have trashed the house. I really want to just take a couple of weeks and spend one day per room trying to make a dent.

BUT.

1) My SFF writer's market listing is almost 2 weeks late because...
2) I don't currently have a real website for Reasons, which is an absolute requirement for a professional writer (working on it!).
3) Taxes need to get handled ASAP.
4) And Elvis is still stuck in the LHC, which will bug me until I finish writing this story.

Just needed to vent.
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x-posted to Facebook

I am trying a 10-minute morning journaling thing. We shall see. I imagine it will be some part brain dump, some part to-do list, some part memories. Will I even be typing it normally, or will I be handwriting it? I like the idea of posting it so it can be seen again in memories or shared with others, but I also like the quietness of the habit of morning handwriting. We will see. There’s no reason I couldn’t do both, I guess.

The kids loved their first week of summer school. They both came home on the first day claiming to already have best friends, which is status quo for Theia and a delightful surprise for Cassius. Cassius’s class has been biking every day (for, he says, 2 hours?) between parks and then having some playtime at the park. Good thing he got competent on biking in the week before summer school started! Theia spent a lot of her time this first week making a unicorn head pinata, which she proudly brought home. We bought candy and she made special Model Magic sculptures, and then she made individual treat bags and stuffed them inside. We hung the unicorn head pinata on the Russian olive tree in our front yard and walloped it good until all the strings holding it up broke, and then we had batting practice until it split open. Good fun was had by all.

Phil DM’d a one-shot for the Sons’ D&D Friday night. Sounds like it went well. He could use my webcam to point at the board so they could see what was going on. That little purchase has really paid for itself in the last year and a half. I spent the evening curled up on the couch reading a book, which has become my habit. It’s nice, because the living room is quiet with the TV off and so reading is a lot easier. I’m almost done reading Memory in Death by J.D. Robb, a pulpy SF procedural mystery. The whole series is set in a well-drawn SF future with some rough subject matter but engaging characters and loads of found family warm-and-fuzzies to balance it out.

Still no stove. It should arrive Wednesday and hopefully be installed Thursday. Phil snapped and bought a hot plate that will arrive today. I was doing okay cooking with the Instant Pot/Microwave/Toaster Oven combination, but when I got sick and Phil had to take over cooking, he was not comfortable with that.

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Heh, when I share the editorial from my writing markets newsletter, I usually feel like I'm putting "business" in my personal feed, but I think I did it the other way 'round this month!

Thoughts in Passing
What does re-establishing normal look like? (Note: this is a long one where I'm kinda thinking out loud about boring routine stuff, so feel free to skip to Things Shiny or Useful!) For me, having my kids go back to school is definitely the most important step. My spouse is still mostly working from home (But he got his first shot on St. Patrick's Day 🍀, thanks to being an essential worker. Yay!). I still can't safely sit down to write in a coffee shop or at the library. My writer's groups and other literary events are all virtual. I'm a special guest at a summer SF convention (Diversicon 28: http://www.diversicon.org/), and they're still deciding whether it will be virtual or in-person. But within the walls of my home, it feels normal and that feels weird.
 
I'm working on fitting everything into a regular routine. "Everything" is a lot, especially since it includes scheduling time to catch up on everything that I let slide during the bad times. Here's my current day-in-the-life schedule:
7:00 - 7:45 AM: Wake up and/or sleep in. I am so not a morning person, but theoretically I'm trying to do the wake up at sunrise and start the day with a little writing thing. Very theoretically.
7:45 - 9:10 AM: Get myself and the kids ready for the day and get them on the school bus. I still feel elated every time I wave goodbye to them!
9:10 - 9:35 AM: Walk the dog, listening to writing podcasts on the way.
9:35 - 10:00 AM: Chores. Cleaning up after breakfast, getting the dishes going, etc.
10:00 - 11:30 AM: Computer time. I turn on my Happy Light for 40 minutes, make myself a mug of coffee, and sit down at my computer. I always start with a #vss365 writing prompt on Twitter. After that, I prioritize deadlines (like this newsletter or paying bills or critiques for my writing group) and handling submissions and rejections. Theoretically then there should be writing. My goal is 250 words, because I should be putting most of my time into editing right now, but I get stir-crazy if I'm not writing at least a little. I'm not a morning person, so I'm not at my most productive during this time.
11:30 - 12:00 PM: Yoga. Physical activity is so important when I spend most of my time sitting in front of the computer. I wasn't able to do yoga while supervising my kids in distance learning, and of course I'm not setting foot inside a gym yet, so this is a great addition to my routine. I've started doing the 30 Days of Yoga with Adriene series on YouTube. I highly recommend it! Putting yoga immediately before lunch makes it part of my regular routine and not something that I have to decide to stop and go do. That's a bundling technique. Physically, it also breaks up the sitting in front of the computer time.
12:00 - 1:30 PM: Lunch etc. I put away screens during this time, and read a physical book while I eat. Reading is so critical for writers! After lunch, it's again with the chores and cleaning and decluttering and trying to dig my way out of the pit o' doom that is my home. I subscribe to a couple of newsletters that give new cleaning missions each day, which helps.
1:30 - 4:20 PM: My butt should be back on my writing seat (I like an exercise ball as a seat. It allows for bouncing when I'm pleased by a particular passage of writing! 😉). My two main writing goals are the aforementioned 250 new words, plus a chapter or short story's worth of revisions. I am still working on getting myself focused during writing time.
4:20 - 5:00 PM: Retrieve children from school bus, get them their after-school snack, and get them into Quiet Time.
5:00 - 7:30 PM: Cooking, eating, and cleaning up after dinner. I am the worst at estimating how long it will take to cook dinner. Seriously, the worst! Sometimes I have a little time at the beginning before dinner if we're eating leftovers or pizza etc. Maybe this is a time I should use for action-needed writing tasks and miscellanea?
7:30 - 9:00 PM: Getting children to bed.
9:00 - ??: Attempting to relax, usually watching TV with the spouse or futzing around with emails and social media, while being frequently interrupted by my night owl child. This is highly unproductive time for me, but I never want to go to sleep at a reasonable time! I really should work on that. I know it would help with the whole waking up early thing...

Challenges, I have a few. I'm working on flipping back into productive mode during designated writing time. I don't have a good scheduled time for my writing-related tasks and miscellanea, and I've got a lot of those to do. I need to make sure that I establish good writing quantity goals, ones that I can sometimes achieve early so I get that burst of brain-rewards and also some free time. Establishing a "done now" achievement point, which is separate from the amount of time I have available, will do that. I hope. Stay tuned and find out!

(Do you have a writing question? Send it to me, either by replying to this email or by using the comment form on my website, and it may get answered in the next newsletter.)
 
What I've been up to lately, writing-wise:

Same old, same old... I had fun taking two separate staggered submission calls and combining both with one of my story ideas. I've submitted the piece to the first publication, and if they reject it, it will go on to the second! I love deadlines and submission themes, I truly do.

(Full Aswiebe's Market List here: http://www.aswiebe.com/writing/markets.html)

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We have returned safely home from our trip to Wisconsin for the funeral of Phil's grandmother, Romayne. There was (just our) family cabin time and snow and more travel and funeral and funeral ham with cheesy potatoes and then the kids besieging their teenaged cousins and (extended) family stories and drinking and family gossip and very poor sleep (because my three-year-old has been waking--and staying--up at 3 AM, and also that hideabed was awful) and the most country kitsch motel I've ever seen, let alone stayed at.

Today there was a lot of driving home. The kids had predictable we-hate-traveling meltdowns and less-predictable we-hate-chicken-nuggets meltdowns. We made it home, hitting the beginning of rush hour traffic. Then I found and cleaned up all six places the cats had puked and pooped around the house, changed the cat litter, and wrangled the kids through dinner and homework and baths and bed.

And nobody killed anybody.

And I am all disoriented due to travel and missing work/school days and daylight savings time starting, so I thought today was Wednesday and I was going to save this to post in Small Victories Wednesday. It is Tuesday. I am still very proud of this victory, though, so. Posted.
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The last two weeks have been kind of rough for me, because Phil hasn't been able to provide much parenting assistance. First he was gone on business for a week, and then he got a rather horrible case of The Sick that has pretty much knocked out his ability to contribute at home. Despite this, it's been an interesting couple of weeks with lots of new experiences.

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This is a catch-up entry. Theia (and Cassius) have kept me so busy that I haven't posted and recorded all the moments that a dutiful and loving parent is supposed to! ::ahem::

Well, in hindsight and with the doctor's note here, I can tell you that at 15 months, Theia was 33.31" tall and weighed 22 lbs. This put her at the 98.8th percentile for height, and the 32.96% for weight. That puts her in the 2.18th % for weight-for-length. I blame Phil for these genetics. I don't particularly want babies with supermodel height-weight ratios ... I wish they weighed more! At least she eats, unlike her brother. Her predicted height is 5'10". We shall see. It would be weird to be taller than my children!

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Kids who do martial arts really are disgustingly cute.

Not at all scary, however. I no longer believe that "I've been training since I was four, so I'm an ultimate bad-ass" line. Really? Up until about twelve, it's a waste of time except for self-esteem issues and wearing out some of their nervous energy.

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